GUIDING PRINCIPLES

lim·inal

[ˈlɪmɪn(ə)l]

ADJECTIVE

technical

  1. relating to a transitional or initial stage of a process.
  2. occupying a position at, or on both sides of, a boundary or threshold.

 



con·nec·tion

[kəˈnɛkʃ(ə)n]

NOUN

  1. a relationship in which a person or thing is linked or associated with something else:

"the connections between social attitudes and productivity" · 

synonyms:

link · relationship · relation · relatedness · interrelation · 

Our connections are limitless, yet our individual life experiences teach us we are limited, sometimes too much or not enough.

For us to fully envisage the reality of our current self, others and whatarises from these connections, we benefit from focussing on certain valuesuntil we experience new outcomes wholly. this can sometimes feel like, “fake it ‘til you make it”, whilst we learn new ways of doing things to improve our connections.

For some, it may feel scary to hear that these liminal connections are continuous, and especially at the point of transition we can feel fear. Fear is often seen as a negative emotion, yet all emotions serve a purpose to protectand nourish our mammalian brain and body. The perceived feeling of fear at the point of liminal connection is your mind and body telling you something is going to change, and your body is preparing for every eventuality orcircumstance to arise to this threat of change, fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. With the right support and values, you can become accustomed to this process, and tame the perception of fear into the loving acceptance and enjoyment of change.

SHARING HEALTHY CONNECTIONS

As humans, and mammals, we have an innate need for connection, we rely on our tribe, pack or herd to help us survive by hunting, gathering, growing, learning, reproducing, and improving. We each have a place made just for us in this world, at this exact time, having strengths to complement one another. When people experience attachment difficulties at an early age or lose their innocence key developmental cycles and blocks are created, and we withdraw from connecting with others to protect ourselves from further discomfort and harm. Our ancestors would have taken a relatively short time to recover then rejoin the tribe, however nowadays our lifestyle does not permit a protective space to do this. A longing for connection is key in our journey and having healthy spaces to share our experiences is essential to recover from mental, emotional, physical and social injury.


LOVE

Humans have a deep longing to share, give and receive love healthily, this typically begins in-utero. Love can become muddled with egocentric needs and driven by dysfunctional experiences. To love healthily is to experience an intense feeling of affection, or great interest or pleasure in doing something. We can find love in a connection, whether this be with ourselves, in nature or an activity, or with another human or being. We can truly love ourselves when we feel embodied, accepted and not judged. Wholly healthy love experiences can be achieved firstly through self-love.


MOMENTUM

Life is in a continuous state of momentum, from present moment to present moment. Living liminally affords us the opportunity to experience many key connections, moving us towards forgiveness, acceptance and a higher state of understanding.


EMBRACING CHANGE

Other than our functioning body, change is the only other consistent living state we experience, even when we are in stillness the world around us changes and must do so in order for us to continue with our dynamic journey.


COMPASSION

For self and others. Holding unconditional positive regard for self and others, recognising each person’s experiences differ, understanding our different experiences and accepting this from others’ perspectives.


INTEGRITY

Recognising and practicing openness in self and others in gentle spaces builds self-confidence and leads us to encompass all of the guiding values needed to do this work. We must first be honest with ourself before we can begin to trust in others, this work needs to begin inside us and our own belief system. Our moral compass must fit with the work we do and who we choose to do it with.


INTUITION

Developing and listening to our intuition is one of the most empowering things we can do for ourselves and one another. Intuition comes from full embodiment of the felt senses, recognising the smallest or biggest sensations we have in our mind and body. Everybody has the capability of developing their intuitive senses, and this can help us to make healthier decisions for ourselves by having the foresight to prioritise our own wants and needs.


AUTHENTICY

Being true to ourselves, in our mind and body can be tough in this world. The most we can do is try to be authentic. As we travel on a path of discovery and belonging we will find ourselves in all of our authentic glory; without agenda and trying to camouflage ourselves into a world we might not fit into.

 

THE FOLLOWING ARE THE GUIDING PRINCIPLES I WORK WITH, IN THIS PROCESS OF CHANGE, AIDING THE FUSION OF OUR WORK TOWARDS ACCEPTANCE, UNDERSTANDING AND GROWTH

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